How to Avoid the Icks that People Can't Stand

Understanding the "Ick"

An "ick" is a bite-sized, specific aversion that may lead someone to lose interest in a possible love interest. Although icks may not be the end of the world, some behaviors can be enough of a put-off so as to turn a date frosty. Here’s a guide to the most common icks and how to avoid them.

Common Icks  How to Avoid Them-

1. Poor Grooming and Hygiene

Good hygiene is a must. Un-kempt hair, body, and soiled clothes may be a serious turn-on-off. Maintain showers on a regular basis, use deodorant, brush your teeth, and always dress nicely. A little extra effort, like a pleasant cologne or a subtle perfume, can go a long way—but don’t overdo it.

2. Rudeness to Service Workers

How you treat waiters, cashiers, and other service workers says a lot about you. If someone is rude or dismissive, he/she will likely lose interest right away. Kindness and respect are positive attributes, so keeply polite.

3. Annoying Mouth Noises

Loud mouth noises, extraneous mouth sounds, and jaw clicking can all be embarrassing. Close your mouth during chewing and pay attention to habits that could be distracting.

4. Bragging About Not Reading

Talking big time about never finished a book or turning away from intellectual debates can be a big no-no. Intelligence is attractive, so embrace learning and curiosity.

5. Pretending to Know Everything

No one likes a know-it-all, especially if it’s clear they’re faking it. It's always more effective to recognize when one doesn't know something and to demonstrate a learning attitude.

6. Lack of Ambition

People are naturally drawn to passion and purpose. Even if you’re not climbing the corporate ladder, having goals, hobbies, or passions makes you more interesting and appealing.

7. Dishonesty

Lying, whether big or small, can quickly ruin trust. Honesty is the foundation of any relationship being established, so always honest with your words and deeds.

8. Poor Nail Hygiene

Dirty or bitten nails can be an instant ick. Keep your nails clean and trimmed—there’s nothing wrong with a little grooming.

9. Interrupting Conversations

On the other hand, one of the most aggravating behaviours is that of talking over other people or not listening effectively and underserving them and causing frustration. Demonstrate sincere interest in what others are talking about and develop effective listening skills.

10. Excessive Jealousy

Trust is essential in any relationship. To be an over-jealous or an over Possessive person can be taken as insecure and controlling, which are two things no one wants.

11. Chewing Tobacco or Smoking

Bad breath, stained teeth and tobacco smell are all icks. If you have a smoking or tobacco chewing habit, try to reduce or give up smoking altogether.

12. Overtexting (Double Texting)

Sending several messages first attempts to get a reply can seem pathetic. Give the other person time to reply before following up.

13. Talking While Eating

Eating with mouth wide open/food consumption in combination with talking can be unwelcoming. Bite silently, mouth shut when chewing, and do not make out vocal sounds while chewing.

14. Messy Living Spaces

A cluttered, unkempt room suggests a lack of self-care. Keeping your space tidy shows responsibility and maturity.

15. Awkward Flip-Flop Use

Flip-flops can be tricky. When the feet have not been taken care of properly, or the feet) are covered by socks, it can be unpleasant for a lot of people. Anytime, stick with fashionable sneakers or dress shoes.

16. Baby Voices

Using a baby voice in conversations can be a dealbreaker for some. Although playfulness is okay, excessive high pitched voices has been noted to be adult-like.

17. Excessive Sports Obsession

It's nice to love a sports team, but to take it to the extreme—use of the pronoun "we" to describe the team—has a kind of ick. Balance is key.

18. Tacky Watches

A stylish watch can enhance an outfit, but oversized or flashy watches can sometimes do the opposite. Keep it classy and well-fitted.

19. Clapping at Odd Times

Clapping upon arrival of a plane or at the end of a movie can appear redundant and inappropriate. If a person understands the social cues, he/she can prevent from awkward situation.

Final Thoughts

Although much of those icks is subjective, it is advisable to use it in order to improve a social or romantic impression. The secret is self-awareness, proper hygiene, regard for others and a little social polish. If you identify some of these behaviors in yourself, even small adjustments can be significant!